forgiveness

I find that for some, forgiving is difficult, yet forgetting is more of a solution. Someone hurts you, walks away, and then comes back asking for your forgiveness. As humans, we make it our goal to forget. In the beginning, that just makes it more difficult. I find that the best solution is to instantly forgive, and if you can find it in you to forget what the other person has done. Either that, or you can forget the other person if they have caused you that much grief. Why forgive? Because God forgives, and we’re only human. We have these idealistic viewpoints of friendships, relationships, acquaintances, where we expect the person to act in the way we have built them up. We bear disappointment when they don’t act like we would like them to, and once they mess up it becomes hard for us to forgive. So instead, we let time pass and we forget. But what is forgetting without forgiving? Does it even have a purpose? I don’t think so. I find that I’m a victim of this as well. I have forgotten people who have treated me wrong, yet I have not forgiven them. This morning, I thought about it. I didn’t just think about it, I almost missed my exit on the highway because I was so deeply caught in it. I found myself forgiving everything anyone has done for me, and I found myself at peace. There’s too much attachment to this world, when everything is temporary. Our negative feelings? Those should be temporary too. So when we forgive, forgive for the sake of Allah. You don’t have to like the person, or accept them into your life, but forgive because this might be the only chance you have. I feel as though I carry a weight on my shoulders when I’m upset with anyone. I feel good though when I forget, but when I remember? I feel terrible. I feel bad that I didn’t let things become positive between us, and then I become at fault. I guess in the end it really just isn’t worth it. You don’t have to mend the relationship and become the best of friends with someone, but forgive them for the sake of forgiving. For the sake of them waking up knowing that if you’re not in their life, they have positive memories of you in the past. Or, that they weren’t worthy of such a great friendship. Forgive them, because if they’re ones to learn from their mistakes then they’ll genuinely appreciate having you around. Forgive, because God forgives. And forget, because humans make mistakes and nobody is perfect. I’m not trying to pull a Mother Teresa on anyone, I just feel as though we hold grudges and they take away from living a happier lifestyle. I feel like forgiving within ourselves, not even telling the other person if it’s too difficult is good for the soul. Because at the end of the day, nobody is worth your frustrations or your anger. That, and in Islam there’s a limit of three days to be angry with someone. So within those three days, find it in you to forgive. Even if you can’t find it in you to say it straight up, forgive for the saking of forgiving. It’ll make you feel a lot better. It’s not about winning or losing, it’s about being happy. And being genuinely happy is really what matters in the end.

*hubby is always..telling me..again and again..coz he alwiz FORGIVE AND FORGET..whenever..people stress him a lot!!..How nice MEN he is!!..
when will i chaNge to be like HIM??..
Hubby..ur so wonderful husband!!